Demisexuality - ndi chiyani ndipo imasiyana bwanji ndi kugonana

Demisexuality ndikumverera kokopeka ndi kugonana bola mukupanga mgwirizano wamphamvu wamalingaliro. Izi zikutanthawuza kuti wachiwerewere amafunikira nthawi ndikumanga ubale wapamtima kuti amve chikhumbo chokhala pafupi. Ndi chiyani chomwe chili choyenera kudziwa za izo?

1. Kodi kugonana kumatanthauza chiyani?

Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi liwu lotanthauza mtundu wamalingaliro ogonana omwe amagwera m'gulu lofanana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komanso kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kudzimva kukhala wokopeka pakugonana ndi anthu okhawo omwe ali ndi zibwenzi zolimba. Choncho zikutanthauza kuti palibe kumverera maphunziro a thupi kumayambiriro kwa ubale. Mkangano wogonana umachitika kokha pamene ubale umakhala wokhudzika kwambiri.

Kukopeka pakugonana sichomwe chimayambira paubwenzi wa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto logonana. Chofunika kwambiri kwa iye kuposa kukongola kwa thupi ndi zomwe zili mkati: khalidwe ndi umunthu. Ndikoyenera kukumbukira kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikusiyana ndi chikhalidwe, ndipo mwachiwonekere anthu ochepa chabe amavutika ndi zochitikazo.

Concept kugonana adawonekera posachedwa. Anagwiritsidwa ntchito koyamba mu 2006. Mawuwa adapangidwa ndi Asexual Visibility and Education Network, Aveni) ndipo adatchuka kwambiri pamasamba ochezera.

Lingaliro ili limayambitsabe kutengeka mtima ndi mikangano yambiri. Anthu ena amaganiza kuti ndi zatsopano kugonanaamene adatseka kusiyana pakati pa kugonana ndi kugonana. Amanyozedwa kapena kukanidwa ndi ena. Gulu la anthuwa limakhulupirira kuti kugonana ndi amuna ndi akazi ndi mawu osafunikira pamalingaliro okhudzana ndi maubwenzi apamtima. Kupatula apo, anthu ambiri, kulowa muubwenzi watsopano, choyamba amafuna kudziwana ndi bwenzi, ndiyeno pokhapo amayamba kusangalala naye.

Dzina lakuti demisexuality limachokera ku mawu demi, ndiye theka. Pakuti demisexual ndi theka kugonana, theka asexual. Chochititsa chidwi n’chakuti, zilibe kanthu kwa iye kuti kaya munthu amene wayamba naye chibwenzi ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake.

Kumverera ndikofunikira kukopeka mtima kwa munthu wina. Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi chidwi ndi munthu wathunthu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake munthu wogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso munthu yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzake, wokhala ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

2. Kodi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumaonekera bwanji?

Demisexuals ndi omwe amaika patsogolo kulumikizana kwamalingaliro kuposa kukopa thupi kuti amve kukopa kugonanaayenera choyamba kumanga ubale wozama. Ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi nthawi zonse. Kawirikawiri chiyambi cha chiyanjano ndi kukopa kugonana, pamaziko omwe kumverera kumakula. Kudziwa munthu munthu wopanda chiwerewere amatha kumva kukopeka pakugonana mkati mwa masekondi.

Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumawonetsedwa ndi kusowa kwa chilakolako chogonana kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano. Kufunika kwa kulumikizana kwakuthupi sikungabwere mpaka ubale wamalingaliro ukhale wokhutiritsa. Kusafuna kugonana kungayambitsidwe chifukwa chodzikayikira kapena kugwirizana kwambiri m'maganizo.

Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sakondana poyamba. Amafunika nthawi kuti amve kuti ali olumikizidwa ndi winawake ndikumudziwa kuchokera mkati. Kwa iwo, ndizosasangalatsanso. kugonana wamba (zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kutengeka kwakukulu kwa iwo). Sadziwanso lingaliro la kukopa alendo kapena anthu omwe angokumana kumene.

3. Demisexualism asexualism

Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri amawonedwa ngati osazizira komanso osafuna kulowa m'mabwenzi apamtima. Komabe, m'pofunika kutsindika kuti demisexuality si chimodzimodzi kugonanakutanthauza kuzizira kwa kugonana ndi kusowa chilakolako chogonana.

wa anthu osagonana Amakhudzana ndi zibwenzi, kumanga maubwenzi ndikuwatsekereza ku dongosolo lanzeru kapena lamalingaliro. Iwo ndithudi amapatula zilakolako.

Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha alibe zosokoneza libido. Zokonda zawo zimangogwirizana ndi mawonekedwe amalingaliro. Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, pamikhalidwe yoyenera komanso kukhudzidwa kwambiri, amatha kusintha kuzizira kwawo kukhala kufunikira kokhudzana ndi thupi (chizolowezi chogonana chachiwiri). Izi zikutanthauza kuti sagonana pang'ono - mpaka kukopeka kwa kugonana kukuwonekera ndipo amakhala anthu ogonana.

Amatha kupeza chisangalalo cha kugonana. Amangofunika nthawi yambiri kuti azichita kuposa ena. Ichi ndichifukwa chake chiwerewere chimanenedwa kukhala pakati pa kugonana ndi kugonana.

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